Influence Tip For Women: It’s important to be aware of your comfort or discomfort with persuasion. Find out how fear plays a role in your influencing or persuasive behavior.
Here’s a quick self-exam. Yes, ladies, just as we do an external exam it is equally important to do an internal exam. Read these statements. Be as honest as you can (nobody will see your answers – only you!)
Please answer Yes or No to the following:
1. I second guess myself more than 2 times every day.
2. When ordering a meal at a café I hesitate because of what others will say.
3. I feel totally confident in all my decisions to influence someone.
4. I listen to and act on others’ attempts to influence me.
5. I always consider how my actions will affect others.
6. I am usually the first person to answer yes to requests.
7. I tend to disregard or question my ideas.
8. I research thoroughly any risks or changes I make.
9. There is someone in my life I constantly try to please.
10. I tend to avoid uncertain or uncomfortable situations.
If you answered yes to more than three statements – don’t worry. There’s a simple recipe I implore to get me over my fear especially a fear that exists in my subconscious. Go through the fear.
Sounds silly but it’s necessary. The most difficult part of dealing with a fear is the anticipation – which causes us to stop when we begin to be afraid. And because we see what happens when we push the boundaries – the fear gets worse.
The best way to get rid of this fear is to let the part of us that keeps it alive die. Not literally. Seriously, we need to get rid of what is standing in our way – the part that convinces us that we cannot survive without buying into this fear.
“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.” Marie Curie
